Milestones
The Romans built the original highway system, stone paved roads linked Rome with hundreds of cities, extending across 53,000 miles. Some are still used today; have survived 2,000 years, a monument to the durability of their engineering and efforts.
Along those roads, stone markers were set, mileposts that told foot weary travelers how far they had come. It was thus easy to gauge where they were in their journey. In the center of Rome, a Golden Milestone (actually Bronze) marked the epicenter of the Roman Empire; a point from which all other posts extended and were measured.
We tend to use the mile stone metaphor in measuring important dates and events as we proceed through our life’s journey, starting with the Golden milestone of our birthday; we remember and celebrate life’s events. Some are obvious when they happen, others only notable in retrospect.
Last week I had the privilege of being the photographer for a colleague’s wedding; snapping pictures and video snippets to document the ceremony and the party – but trying to focus on the family and friends who will be remembered years hence. Although I posted the digital slideshow to the Internet, I ordered a hard bound book, because media changes and web sites expire. Flipping through old albums is a powerful, way to emotionally connect with the people you were with that day. Reliving the past; remembering the friends, relationships, shared activities and feeling old emotions come back to the fore.
While visiting my in-laws this weekend, I went digging back through the memory albums Mom had painstakingly put together for her three daughters, updated constantly with clippings and memorabilia as her daughter grew up and passed the milestones of kindergarten, grade school trips, first date, high school, college, (and in her case, 5 more colleges). The pictures of the wedding in 1976 with awkward moments, antique looking hair styles, and the reception fountain that looks so trite.
Leafing through pictures of relatives, many now gone, others no longer nearly as young. The postcards from the Bermuda honeymoon, and soon, the first house (did we ever fit all our stuff into the 500 square feet half of a duplex?).
Business cards and pictures at work (boy, what passed for chic fashion back then). There are poses next to proudly purchased (but now historic) cars, or peering at the camera next to statues, edifices and just plain streets on trips to Italy, Florida and The Blue Ridge Mountains.
The tone of the book changed as others joined the pages. A daughter 24 years ago and a son 2 years after that. Now instead of looking back at funky hairdos, we try to picture if they were ever that small, innocent and cute. (For some reason the pictures rarely captured the late night cries or the temper tantrums though).
The milestones merged and intertwined. As those of the parents our children and extended family came in seeming rapid fire. The major things, like new communities, different schools, larger houses, and changing careers. The book juxtaposes the momentous with the more mundane, but often more memorable school plays, recitals, trips, Scout ceremonies and sleepovers.
Mom pasted in all of our unique family holiday cards, each one with a different theme; putting a unique spin and perspective on another year gone by. Our late dog penned one, the house wrote another; the year with three family graduations sparked a yearbook theme for the “Lurie Academy”.
As the kids grew, their lives and pictures showed their growing maturity and interests as they emerged with their own values, goals and attitudes; tempered with what we gave them, and they explored; blended with those of friends, and for 16 years, the community that is uniquely Troy.
Our pictures (although as official family photographer, I am a rarity), continue to show the maturing and aging process; but just as vividly, the ever expanding network of interests, activities, school, family, friends, community interests and of course ongoing milestones that can only come after 30 really good years of marriage.
Happy Anniversary Barb.
Leib Lurie is First Night Troy & Troy Optimist Club board member. He is CEO of phone message service OneCallNow.com. You can reach him at Leib@Lurie.net
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